It seems a little ironic that such an important facet of our lives — our family relationships — often receive so little strategic planning. As Camp Paradise director Tim VandenBos, who hosts annual father-son and father-daughter retreats, explains:
Most men don’t give fathering the kind of intensity that we give work. We don’t set goals. We just hope it happens.
My father became my dear friend before he passed into eternity, but we had a difficult history. He didn’t become a believer until late in life. Before choosing to follow Jesus, he made some choices that were incredibly destructive to our family. Those choices left marks of anger, rejection, and abandonment.
Consequently, I grew up with a distorted picture of fatherhood. However, when I became a believer, that distorted picture was gradually replaced by one that displayed the beauty of biblical fatherhood. Destructive marks were replaced with marks of grace, acceptance, and faithfulness.