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Do you need a day of rest?

Do you need a day of rest?

You want to be a loving, joyful, peaceful momma, but you’re exhausted. The demands on your time and energy feel relentless.

You need a chance to catch your breath—but you feel guilty. There’s still so much work waiting to be done.

You need a day of rest.

Do you need a day of rest?

I understand. I’ve felt overloaded and overwhelmed many times, too.

But during the season when I was homeschooling and writing Philosophy Adventure, something amazing happened. It forever transformed my perspective on rest….

A Private Miracle

In June of 2012, I arrived at our state homeschool convention with a box of books purged from our home library. I brought them to an elderly gentleman who was operating a used bookstore in the vendor hall. He slipped a pair of reading glasses from the pocket of his plaid shirt and bent to examine our books.

While I waited for him to finish, I scanned the rows of tall wooden shelves, wondering what new treasures I would find.

A few moments later, he removed his glasses and returned them to his pocket. Then he handed me a generous store credit and smiled.

What happened next was just the sort of personalized encounter that had gradually persuaded me to kneel and commit my life to Jesus. Some would dismiss it as a “coincidence,” but I immediately recognized it as a private miracle.

As I moved toward the History, Philosophy, and Theology Section  for a closer look, a certain vintage volume caught my eye. Elegantly displayed in gilded script on the spine was the title: Day of Rest, followed by “Stacy.”

Day of Rest, Stacy

(Apparently, the author’s name was also Stacy.)

An Invitation to Rest

I was stunned. In that moment, I had the distinct impression that my Heavenly Father had graciously invited me to a “Day of Rest, Stacy.”

It was a perfectly-timed, desperately-needed message.

My writing schedule was incredibly intense and hard to regulate. Most days started at 3:00 a.m. and often didn’t end until late at night.

I needed this invitation impressed upon me in a way that would make it unforgettable. It granted me “permission” to take a guilt-free day of rest each week.

Without rest, I begin to lose sight of the bigger picture. My productivity tanks. I’m more likely to eat “garbage” and become irritable. (Can you relate?)

No doubt, the freedom to take a day of rest has protected both my health and my relationships.

Some Practical Ways to Rest

For me, a day of rest is a time when I have permission to:

  • take a nap
  • read a book
  • take a luxuriously long shower or bath
  • go for a walk
  • join my family on a disc golf excursion
  • snuggle with my husband or my cat.

Basically, it’s permission to rejuvenate — whatever that looks like (as long as it doesn’t violate God’s Word).

A Simple Plan

Do you know how to rest?

It’s actually pretty simple. A bit of preparation goes a long way.

Put a date on the calendar and do three things before it arrives:

  1. Pray – for wisdom about what really needs to be done.
  2. Work – do all that you can do and then…
  3. Trust – let go and leave the outcome of your efforts in His capable hands.

A Legacy

Will your children remember you as the crabby momma who was always too busy?

Or will you be the joyful momma who napped when she needed to, acknowledged her limitations, and patiently loved her family.

You will be more effective, clear-headed, and loving toward those who depend on you if you allow yourself to recharge.

Go ahead! Take a day of rest, Momma.


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3 Tips to Help You Overcome Overwhelm, Clutter, & Chaos

3 Tips to Overcome Overwhelm, Clutter, and Chaos

Do you feel overwhelmed? Is your environment making you a little crazy? Do you worry about whether you’re giving the people you love the attention they need?

With the flood of demands and opportunities that rush toward us, it’s easy to be swept away….

As the manager of my home, often the first challenge I face is just getting quiet enough to ask the question: “What is most important right now?”

If you find yourself asking the same question, I have three concepts to help you clear away clutter, expedite meal preparation, and invest in family relationships. Continue reading 3 Tips to Help You Overcome Overwhelm, Clutter, & Chaos

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IT’S OKAY IF YOUR DREAM IS TO BE A GOOD WIFE AND MOTHER

(Scroll down to get a coupon for 15% OFF the hardcover GIFT edition and 30% off the digital edition of I’d Rather Be Your Mommy!)

Raising children is a noble profession. In many ways, our future depends upon it. Somewhere along the way, our culture has lost sight of just how important motherhood and fatherhood really are.

Charles Spurgeon said it well:

You are as much serving God in looking after your own children, and training them up in God’s fear, and minding the house, and making your household a church for God, as you would be if you had been called to lead an army to battle for the Lord of hosts.

Continue reading IT’S OKAY IF YOUR DREAM IS TO BE A GOOD WIFE AND MOTHER

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HEALING BROKEN FATHERHOOD

Healing broken Fatherhood

“Father…” I choked on the word as Roger and I sang a worship chorus with a small congregation in Kauai. I was a new believer at the time, and I still associated the word with my personal experience.

I love my father, and the Lord brought peace and great healing to our relationship before Dad passed into eternity. But for a very long time our relationship was a source of deep hurt.

DISTORTING THE GIFT

Although God gave us the gift of family, when fathers’ hearts are not turned toward their children, that gift becomes distorted. Such families suffer a loss that is difficult to overcome. For some, it is devastating.

And the pain often carries into the next generations…. Continue reading HEALING BROKEN FATHERHOOD

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THE MAKING OF THE MOMMY BOOK

Have you ever wondered how books are printed?

We’re excited to release our first children’s hardcover book. And we’re praying that mommies everywhere will read it to their little ones at bedtime, and that little ones will fall asleep knowing how precious and chosen they are!

If you’ve ever wanted to take a little peek “behind the scenes,” here’s a little pictorial journal of the printing of I’d Rather Be Your Mommy. Continue reading THE MAKING OF THE MOMMY BOOK

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A FATHER’S MARK — 3 PRACTICES

How can you be intentional about building your relationship with your child? 

3 PRACTICES THAT WILL MARK YOUR CHILD WITH LOVE

It seems a little ironic that such an important facet of our lives — our family relationships — often receive so little strategic planning.

Tim VandenBos, director of annual father-son and father-daughter retreats, explains:

Most men don’t give fathering the kind of intensity that we give work. We don’t set goals. We just hope it happens.

To be a skillful father, you must be intentional.

Continue reading A FATHER’S MARK — 3 PRACTICES

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A FATHER’S MARK — PART 1

Every father leaves his mark on his child.

That mark can impact generations.

My father became my dear friend before he passed into eternity, but we had a difficult history. He didn’t become a believer until late in life. Before choosing to follow Jesus, he made some choices that were incredibly destructive to our family. Those choices left marks of anger, rejection, and abandonment.

Consequently, I grew up with a distorted picture of fatherhood. However, when I became a believer, that distorted picture was gradually replaced by one that displayed the beauty of biblical fatherhood. Destructive marks were replaced with marks of grace, acceptance, and faithfulness.

Continue reading A FATHER’S MARK — PART 1