Eat a live frog first thing in the morning.

Don’t Eat That Frog — Part 1

There are many time management books on the bestseller lists, with new titles added each year. As a long-time student of time management, I’ve observed that “the experts” frequently contradict one another.

You're not alone.


You care about how you invest your time. You’re trying hard to maximize your potential. Some days you feel like a “rock star.” Other days, not so much….

Russell and Gary Quito cathedral



We hear it so often that it’s become cliché. But I suppose, if you don’t homeschool, there’s no way to know how many “social” opportunities are available to homeschoolers….

Russell poison fishing


As Russell explains in this video, his family typically spends their Sunday afternoons playing frisbee together or watching a movie. However, the Waodanis’ Sunday afternoon activities are a bit different from his.

Have you ever heard of poison fishing? If not, you’re about to hear Russell explain it….

Vintage Interview with Lee Strobel


Years ago, (it feels like another lifetime), before I had children, I had the opportunity to sit down with Lee Strobel and talk with him about writing.  He has amazing stories to tell….

eternity in their hearts

Eternity in Their Hearts

Taking the long view on home education

In the final hours of childbirth, before I pushed my firstborn out into the world, my pain intensified and I slipped into survival mode….

A Mothers Heart

It’s okay if your dream is to be a good wife and mother.

Raising children is a noble profession. In many ways, our future depends upon it. Somewhere along the way, our culture has lost sight of just how important motherhood and fatherhood really are.

Charles Spurgeon said it well:

You are as much serving God in looking after your own children, and training them up in God’s fear, and minding the house, and making your household a church for God, as you would be if you had been called to lead an army to battle for the Lord of hosts.

Thales with the astronomers

Meet Thales — The Father of Western Philosophy

Stunned by Darkness

Our adventure opens upon a battlefield. The year is 585 BC. Lydian soldiers clash with Medes. Blood flows; men die.

After six grueling years of engagement, weary families wonder whether the fighting will ever end. An ominous rumor ripples across the field. The philosopher Thales had made a frightening prediction. Suddenly, the sky grows dark. …

hands holding gift

5 Gift Ideas for Homeschool Families

Homeschool moms are notorious for giving educational resources to their children on birthdays and for Christmas.

I’ve bought a few such items myself (with mixed responses from my sons depending upon what type of item I purchased.) I thought perhaps I could share with you a few of the gifts I’ve given over the years that my sons have thoroughly enjoyed….

Healing broken fatherhood

Healing Broken Fatherhood

“Father…” I choked on the word as Roger and I sang a worship chorus with a small congregation in Kauai.

I was a new believer at the time, and I still associated the word “father” with my personal experience with my dad.

I love Dad, and, thankfully, the Lord brought peace and great healing to our relationship before he passed into eternity.

But for a very long time our relationship was a source of deep hurt.

Distorting the Gift

God gave us the gift of family. But when a father’s heart is not turned toward his children, that gift becomes distorted.

His family suffers a loss that is difficult to overcome. For some, it is devastating.

And the pain often carries into the next generations….

Healing Broken Fatherhood

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Words Matter

My grandfather abandoned my grandmother and their three young daughters. He divorced her and married his secretary.

As my mom told the story, my grandmother discovered he was engaged in an illicit relationship when she found a birth control device in the glove box of his car.

By the way, words matter.

He was not “having an affair.”

Replacing the word “adultery” with the word “affair” is a direct attack on the family. Ask Siri to define “affair,” and you will hear a harmless list of definitions that include “love affair.”

But love builds up. Love is patient. Kind. Not self-seeking. It does not dishonor others.

Adultery tears apart families. It is the antithesis of love.

Deadly Medicine

When my grandmother confronted my grandfather about this discovery, he set a bottle of gin on the kitchen table.

“Drink that,” he said coldly, “and it won’t hurt anymore.”

She did.

Years later, she died an alcoholic’s death.

Generations Impacted

My mother’s childhood ended that day when her father walked out. Before he left, he turned to her and said, “Take care of your little sisters.”

Mom was 12 years old.

Years later, my own childhood suffered from the impact of grandfather’s unfaithfulness.

There is much more to the story, of course. (More than I will ever know.) Yet I have learned firsthand:

When we yield ourselves to our Creator, He exercises His power to heal and restore.


Broken Things, Big and Small

This morning I determined that my little toe may be broken.

For the past couple of days, I felt a dull pain—seemingly caused by something lumpy in my shoe. I took my shoe off a few times to feel inside. When I didn’t find anything, I straightened the seam of my sock, thoughtlessly assuming it was the source of the problem.

The discomfort intensified this morning.

I examined my foot and discovered that my little toe was red and swollen. I vaguely recalled smashing it against the base of the dining room table earlier in the week.

A searing pain had made me hop briefly, but I had things to do, life’s demands to meet, so I quickly moved on.

(After all, it’s only a toe.)

My left foot was already compromised by a previous issue that made it partially numb, so it’s not surprising that it took a while to realize my toe was broken.

Are you wondering why I’m telling you about my broken toe when we’re supposed to be talking about fatherhood?

It’s because elements of my experience present a fitting analogy for how we relate to the broken condition of fatherhood in our culture.

Of course, there’s one big difference: whereas a broken toe is a minor injury—broken fatherhood brings to mind the state of affairs described by the Prophet Isaiah (1:6):

The whole head is sick,
and the whole heart faint.
From the sole of the foot
even to the head,
there is no soundness in it,
but bruises and sores
and raw wounds….

Come now, let us reason together.

Read in context as a commentary on our present culture, I find the passage sobering:

5 Why will you still be struck down?
Why will you continue to rebel?
The whole head is sick,
and the whole heart faint.
6 From the sole of the foot
even to the head,
there is no soundness in it,
but bruises and sores
and raw wounds….
7 Your country lies desolate;
your cities are burned with fire;
in your very presence
foreigners devour your land.…
15 When you spread out your hands,
I will hide my eyes from you;
even though you make many prayers,
I will not listen;
your hands are full of blood.
16 Wash yourselves;
make yourselves clean;
remove the evil of your deeds from before my eyes;
cease to do evil,
17 learn to do good;
seek justice,
correct oppression;
bring justice to the fatherless,
plead the widow’s cause.
18 “Come now, let us reason together, says the Lord:
though your sins are like scarlet,
they shall be as white as snow….
19 If you are willing and obedient,
you shall eat the good of the land;
20 but if you refuse and rebel,
you shall be eaten by the sword;
for the mouth of the Lord has spoken.”

The Holy Bible: English Standard Version. (2016). (Is 1:2–20). Wheaton: Standard Bible Society.

As a nation of families, we sustained grave injuries years ago.

Yet we moved on—never stopping to examine the source of our pain. We had things to do, life’s demands to meet, and a pre-existing condition (a/k/a – sin) that numbs our awareness.

A Devastating Injury

It’s hard to pinpoint when the most devastating blow occurred.

Perhaps it was during a world war when fathers were called out of their families and onto the battlefields. Or perhaps it was the industrial revolution that disrupted the family structure.

Whatever the cause, growing up in the 60s and 70s, I personally witnessed a full frontal assault on fatherhood :

  • Fathers, once portrayed by the media as providers and protectors, were increasingly portrayed as non-essential, bumbling fools.
  • Women’s rights were on the rise—which was good in so many ways but horribly exploited by those seeking to destroy biblical families.
  • Culture began to celebrate the “I” in place of the “we”—unaware of the dangerous implications of that shift.

A Story of Rebellion

Dad was 10 years my mother’s senior. She was 16 when they married, and he was the “head” of the house in the first years of their marriage.

Mom talked about how, in the early days of their marriage, after she made their bed, Dad would test her work by dropping a quarter on the sheets to see if it bounced.

Dad ruled from law rather than from love.

He was distant, self-absorbed, selfish, and depressed.

There is more to this story. Sad details I won’t share here. But, ultimately, we all rebelled against him, my mother included. And that led to a fatal wounding that culminated in the destruction of their marriage.

Lessons from Brokenness

Though here I am focused on fatherhood, I acknowledge that both motherhood and fatherhood have been undermined and distorted by sin.

The Prophet Malachi warned us:

Behold, I will send you Elijah the prophet before the great and awesome day of the Lord comes. And he will turn the hearts of fathers to their children and the hearts of children to their fathers, lest I come and strike the land with a curse.

The Holy Bible: English Standard Version. (2016). (Mal 4:5–6). Wheaton: Standard Bible Society.

I have seen the effects of that curse in my own family of origin.

God often teaches us of His goodness and sufficiency through brokenness.

Even after embracing the reality that Jesus Christ died to save me from the blindness and destruction of a sinful life apart from God, my understanding of fatherhood remained extremely broken.

But it was that brokenness that prompted me to begin researching a biblical view of fatherhood. And the picture that began to emerge was extremely different from the one I gleaned from personal experience.

Instead of abandonment, I saw sacrificial love.

Father Hunger

In his book titled, Father Hunger, Douglas Wilson defines biblical masculinity:

So what is it then? What is masculinity? Simply put, masculinity is the glad assumption of sacrificial responsibility.

A man who assumes responsibility is learning masculinity, and a culture that encourages men to take responsibility is a culture that is a friend to masculinity.

When a culture outlaws masculinity, they soon learn that such outlaws are a terrible bane to them, instruments that destroy civilization with their mutant forms of masculinity.

Every society needs masculine toughness, but it needs a toughness that lives and thrives and is honored within the boundaries of the law. And if we want this kind of toughness in the men, we have to teach it to the boys, and cultivate it in them.

Like a concrete foundation, masculine toughness has to lie underneath masculine tenderness.

Let me repeat the short definition again: “Masculinity is the glad assumption of sacrificial responsibility.”

Keep that definition in mind as I tell you the story of when Roger and I became parents…

A Stunning Surprise and Sober Response

I never planned to have children. As an unbeliever, I had been successfully conditioned to see the traditional family as an impediment to artistic expression and the realization of one’s full potential.

(The enemy tries to turn truth on its head. He is often successful.)

However, as God’s work in renewing my mind progressed and my biological clock began to run down, my mother instinct grew stronger. One day, my friend Patty and I prayed that if God wanted Roger and me to have children, it would “just happen.”

And it did.

The night I took my pregnancy test, my sister Tobey stopped by to show us photos of her mission trip to the Dominican Republic. She also wanted to witness my pregnancy test results.

When I emerged from the bathroom, test-in-hand, she and Roger saw two faint lines appear. He asked what it meant.

Tobey shouted, “It means you’re going to have a baby!”

Immediately, the color drained from Roger’s face. He asked if we could continue looking at the pictures of her trip.

(Later, Tobey snapped this faded photo of us holding the pregnancy test.)

You might find his response surprising—especially since he is a man who clearly loves and serves his children. However, in light of Douglas Wilson’s definition of masculinity, Roger’s reaction actually appears quite sober.

Masculinity is the glad assumption of sacrificial responsibility.

Inescapable Influence

Speed of the leader, speed of the team. God ordained fathers as leaders of their families. Whether present or absent, their profound influence is unavoidable, and it will bring either a blessing or a curse.

My father’s failures initially shaped my concept of family.

A few weeks after taking that pregnancy test, I sat at the edge of the pool at the Pheasant Run Resort where we had stayed on our wedding night.

Five years later, we were staying for our anniversary.

As I watched a young couple splash and play with their small children, a realization made me weep. They were a picture of a loving family so different from the one I grew up in….

A Painful Harvest

After decades of mocking, belittling, tempting, and otherwise undermining the role of fathers in our society, we are reaping a deadly harvest—the curse promised by Malachi.

Children from fatherless homes are:

  • 5 times more likely to commit suicide
  • 32 times more likely to run away
  • 20 times more likely to have behavioral disorders
  • 14 times more likely to commit rape
  • 9 times more likely to drop out of high school
  • 10 times more likely to abuse chemical substances
  • 9 times more likely to end up in a state-operated institution
  • 20 times more likely to end up in prison

Fatherless boys and girls are twice as likely to drop out of high school,twice as likely to end up in jail, four times more likely to need help for emotional or behavioral problems.

(Several sources reported these statistics.)

Healing Broken Fatherhood

Discouraging as that may be, hearts turned back to God find restoration.

If my people who are called by my name humble themselves, and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and heal their land.

The Holy Bible: English Standard Version. (2016). (2 Ch 7:14). Wheaton: Standard Bible Society.

He will turn the hearts of the fathers to their children and the children to their fathers.

I witnessed it in my relationship with my own dad.

At the end of his life, my dad had become a humble, loving father. Although he was deeply grieved by his failures, he received the comfort and forgiveness offered in the love and grace of Christ.

Before my grandfather died, he came to my mother and asked for her forgiveness. Their relationship was restored.

And earlier this month, I witnessed my husband honor and serve his father, and his father give a blessing to my husband and my children.

(Apart from Jesus, their relationship would look quite different. In fact, for many years, it did look quite different.)

In my own husband’s parenting, I have seen what Douglas Wilson describes as a biblical father reflecting Father God’s heart. Had I not witnessed it firsthand, I might have thought it merely a fairy tale.

Douglas writes:

What are fathers called to?
Fathers give.
Fathers protect.
Fathers bestow.
Fathers yearn and long for the good of their children.
Fathers delight.
Fathers sacrifice.
Fathers are jovial and open-handed.
Fathers create abundance, and if lean times come they take the leanest portion themselves and create a sense of gratitude and abundance for the rest.
Fathers love birthdays and Christmas because it provides them with yet another excuse to give some more to the kids.
When fathers say no, as good fathers do from time to time, it is only because they are giving a more subtle gift, one that is a bit more complicated than a cookie.
They must also include among their gifts things like self-control and discipline and a work ethic, but they are giving these things, not taking something else away just for the sake of taking.

One Exclusive Source

As I write, I accidentally bang my toe against the metal base of my desk. The pain leads me to these closing thoughts:

  • We are wounded and families are hurting.
  • Fathers are point men and leaders of their families.
  • We are under attack, and we have sustained injuries.

Life’s demands do not stop, and so we must move forward.

But we would be wise to examine what has been broken, bind it up, and protect it so it may heal. If we neglect it, we may cause greater injury and one day discover an infection so severe that it leads to permanent loss.

There is One Exclusive Source for healing. 

The world prescribes many things to fix us, like “more family time.” Family time is important, but it can become an idol that inhibits true healing and restoration.

There is no prescription we can take apart from turning to our Heavenly Father

A stunning picture of biblical love

Fathers’ hearts must turn toward their Heavenly Father in love, submission, and obedience. As fathers honor their Heavenly Father, the speed of the leader becomes the speed of the team and forms a stunning picture of biblical love.

Then, despite the challenges we face, we discover (as Luke 18:27 tells us):

What is impossible with man is possible with God.

The Holy Bible: English Standard Version. (2016). (Lk 18:27–28). Wheaton: Standard Bible Society.

Are you raising a future father? If you have a boy in your house on his way to becoming a man, celebrate his transition with Celebrating Manhood — a rite of passage guide.

Celebrating Manhood - a rite of passage guide

Making the most of High School


If you are homeschooling high school in America, undoubtedly, your student will be studying American History. We’ve studied a lot of history in our house — ancient history, world history, the Renaissance and Reformation….

However, at the start of the 2016 school year, we had yet to complete a systematic study of all periods of American history. So, when selecting courses for dual enrollment, American History 1 and 2 were natural choices.

(If you’re just joining us now, you might not know that dual enrollment enables high school students to earn college credit for the courses they study.)

CollegePlus reimagined as Lumerit Scholar

Making the Most of High School with CollegePlus — Part 7

In the midst of our CollegePlus studies, the program underwent a major transformation. Consequently, we decided to “interrupt our regularly scheduled programming” to explain this change.

College Plus Reimagined As Lumerit Scholar

What inspired the change?

We’ll start with a little history… …

teaching to the test

Making the Most of High School with CollegePlus — PART 6

One of the greatest gifts of homeschooling is the freedom to customize your child’s education.

Without formal testing, it is unreasonable to expect a teacher who is responsible for a large classroom of students to know with certainty whether those students are comprehending the material presented.

But in the intimacy of the homeschool environment, there are a variety of ways to make this assessment. …

The Mommy Book Gives

The Mommy Book Gives

In a twinkling, all the cares of this world will pass away, and we will stand before the Lord.

In that moment, the only work that will matter is the work done for Him… …



A peek behind the scenes

Have you ever wondered how books are printed?

We’re excited to release our first children’s hardcover book. And we’re praying that mommies everywhere will read it to their little ones at bedtime, and that little ones will fall asleep knowing how precious and chosen they are!

If you’ve ever wanted to take a little peek “behind the scenes,” here’s a little pictorial journal of the printing of I’d Rather Be Your Mommy. …

Mark Your Child with Love


How can you be intentional about building your relationship with your child?

3 Practices That Will Mark Your Child With Love

It seems a little ironic that such an important facet of our lives — our family relationships — often receive so little strategic planning.

Tim VandenBos, director of annual father-son and father-daughter retreats, explains:

Most men don’t give fathering the kind of intensity that we give work. We don’t set goals. We just hope it happens.

To be a skillful father, you must be intentional.

every father leaves his mark


Every father leaves his mark on his child.

That mark can impact generations.

My father became my dear friend before he passed into eternity, but we had a difficult history. He didn’t become a believer until late in life. Before choosing to follow Jesus, he made some choices that were incredibly destructive to our family. Those choices left marks of anger, rejection, and abandonment.

Consequently, I grew up with a distorted picture of fatherhood. However, when I became a believer, that distorted picture was gradually replaced by one that displayed the beauty of biblical fatherhood. Destructive marks were replaced with marks of grace, acceptance, and faithfulness.

A Study of Worldviews with Lumerit

Making the Most of High School with CollegePlus — PART 5

Do your children see the world through the lens of Scripture?

Everyone has a worldview. It is the “lens” through which we view everything around us. Most people blindly accept theirs from the culture in which they live. However, Christians are called to cultivate a biblical worldview. …

storytime with Southern Plate's Christy Jordan

Storytime with Southern Plate’s Christy Jordan

Have you met Christy yet?

Christy Jordan is a serious Christ follower, and we are honored that she chose to share the sweetest reading of I’d Rather Be Your Mommy on her delightful blog,

You can listen to her reading yourself in the clip below. (Enjoy!)

C.S. Lewis Original Recording

Before Mere Christianity

C.S. Lewis Vintage Broadcast Talks

Imagine you live in a flat in London, and it’s 1941.

It’s night. As you hear the now familiar drone of propellers, you brace yourself. Within minutes, bombs drop from the skies and explosions erupt. You feel helpless, hopeless, and an overwhelming sense of impending doom.

When at last it’s quiet , you fumble your way to the radio, your hand shaking as you turn the dial. A calm, reassuring voice fills the room, delivering the first of what will be a series of radio broadcast talks. This one is titled: “Right and Wrong: A clue to the meaning of the universe.” …